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As I sit at the airport in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, awaiting my delayed flight to Kigali, Rwanda, where I will be presenting at the Kigali Global Dialogue on Narrative Connecting food to people and cultures, I find myself meditating on the deepest connection of all, intimacy. Rogue states and angry and broken people have one thing in common: isolation. Being confined for any reason can lead us to feel lonely, disconnected, and isolated due to isolation. Unhappy solitude is not good for an individual or a nation. These thoughts are appropriate as I celebrate Pride Month and discuss my place in the human community. I may be proud for good reason when the heteronormative world sees my need for intimacy and inclusion as a threat to their lives and those nifty boxes of life and living that, at the best of times, are unpredictable and unpredictable.
When one can open up to the other humans Enough to give themselves without fear of intimate exploration, tender discovery, and connected passion, it leads to orgasmic realization and release. It is then that one really finds fatigue which is inspiring and can lead to a blissful sleep and sweeter than sweet dreams. It is a belief, myth, and legend that those who experience intimacy can nurture and invest in strong relationships to ensure smoother sailing through both good and bad times. It is a snippet of the time when two become one that feeds the cravings of longing and creates emotions and tension, agitation and connection, and brings fulfillment to both. In these moments, when we truly lose ourselves to fears, doubts, anxieties, anxieties, and unease and connect with the other, we also learn to connect with our true selves.
It’s not just teens who are coming of age, shaping their identity, and grappling with their sexuality, they’re the ones who need intimacy. These young minds chase intrigues, intrigues, passionate encounters, and hookups. When we become adults we find ourselves able to love and be loved. Then we chase love, but knowing that what we end up with will be the loss of the self, the acquisition of the other, and the creation of a shared identity. Intimacy is self-discovery as we lose ourselves to the other and the other. It is a way of life to teach us to take risks by taking those opportunities that mature us into beings capable of exploring our own needs and, in doing so, to develop intimate relationships that greatly benefit us while at the same time blessing another with a similar self-enriching discovery. .
Intimacy and intimacy relations Not one and the same. For intercourse to occur, one does not need to be truly intimate. Intimate relationships and friendships are about much more than just sexual intercourse and bearing offspring as a result. Successful intimacy goes beyond the closeness we find in sexual contact.
In a fulfilling and blessed intimate relationship/partnership, two people with clearly defined identities and personalities, ideas, professions, goals and hobbies find the ability to be faithful and thus dedicate themselves to that other and do so with selfless pride. And there is much to reflect upon when one contemplates in horror the declining orgasm rates of heterosexual women. The absence of an orgasmic exchange with a loved, trusted partner reveals the difference between reproductive intimacy and what is recreationally satisfying.
Yet the heterogeneous world, a world in which colonialists ruled with barbaric and brute force while following the dictates of religions that marginalized many, has deliberately instituted mores, traditions, myths, laws, and discipline that make it impossible for homosexual people to love, feel love, and be able to make love. Peace in this world through our individuality and our thirst to find a connection with oneself as we connect with another person we absolutely love. The Abrahamic lens has turned love into a union with the primary purpose of forming another generation. This warped way of looking at love, this hideous way of spreading ideology and beliefs, has taken us to dark places of intimacy where love has been entirely reduced to a physical act rather than an emotional journey with captivating discovery, exciting engagement and connection that brings soothing release and fulfillment to the mind.
Blinded by religious beliefs, dogma, and prejudice, we mistakenly raise young people in polarized societies. Societies that do not care for their citizens’ mental, spiritual, and emotional health and well-being are broken societies, doomed to dark places of neglect and anguish. These isolating ways of looking at intimacy produce lonely, incomplete people. People who cannot take risks with another person, cannot share intimate moments with those they are attracted to. These people are engaged in superficial interpersonal relationships, self-absorbed and incomplete, unable to love and be loved. Under pressure from society, shamed by religion and elders, these teens become adults tormented by their own inner conflict. Highly Christian America has many issues that result from that desperation that comes with viewing intimacy through religious piety. violent crimes It is perpetrated by adults with depression and anxiety, rising rates of obesity and heart disease, eating disorders, broken marriages and unwanted pregnancies—all of which can be linked to loneliness and a lack of true intimacy.
As I continue to dream of a more just world where no one controls who I love and how I might choose to be intimate with my beloved, I find myself gazing out at the hills and houses of Addis Ababa and seeing a life on the street that is colorful, lively, and despite being ostensibly poorer than the United States, is lived A richer life perhaps with less crime of the kind seen in the United States. I find myself thinking about how I found my voice, after experiencing intimacy in New York City for the first time, I began to appreciate myself, and lost the restless nights of my youth that had haunted me so irritatingly for the longest time. Love is a blessing, and intimate love is a devotion between two that frees both of their fears and connects them to a higher plane of being and existence. Engaging in another person while engaging in an intimate act of lovemaking, one learns to create healthy boundaries and share life and the world with others in a way that does not steal one’s identity, but is an affirmation of our individuality and also comes with the gift of connection that frees us from despair, loneliness, and suicidal grief.
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